Let it go and you shall be happy

LET IT GO AND YOU SHALL BE HAPPY

My forefathers; the Yoruba people have a say that goes like; the struggle of a man begins at birth. Everyone has a something he or she struggle with in life. Is not your struggle or what happened to you that matters but how you react to it.

It took me long time to be able to understand the principle of letting things go and be happy. It all start in 2013 when I fell in love with a girl I met on facebok and for 6 month I wasn't having the courage to informed her of my love for her. Lastly in January, 2014 I break the ice and I informed her. To my surprise she warmly accepted my love proposal. This begin a new era of my life. 

We were always happy to be together. For good 5 month everything is moving well till her family started pressuring her to bring out man for marriage. Yes, they said that and she told them my man is still in school so please let him finish because he has only a year more but No they said. I had to talk to uncle but he never understood me. They cutoff all the privileges and even some right she was  enjoy making her always sad and unhappy. This too make me very sad and unhappy too.

Until one day she informed me that they were forcing her to marry one man (truck driver). I was sad very sad but I can't do any thing. Although we come from the same community but I was another continent and wasn't prepared for marriage at that moment. So we brought our relationship to an end at a moment when I was preparing for my end of semester examination. It has hell for me. I couldn't learn, sleep and even eat. No one understand me. I lost focus and a lot of weight and lastly...

As a researcher, I was researching how I could come out in that situation I was in and finally I found what worked for me. It was mindful meditation of letting go of my worries. It works well for me but not faster. It was slow but effective. Let your worries go, see them moving from your mind slowly like waves. Observe the feelings and ever judge them. Breathe in and out and let your worries go and you shall be happy.